General Stage 3.5

The 3.5 Stage of Development (Achiever)

Subtle. Individual. Active

At this stage, which is a subtle upshift of the concrete 1.5 stage, your subtle identity is well established and you can own and have power over your own ideas, thoughts, emotions, behavior and your future, and you can actively make subtle choices. For example, you can choose, or prioritize one subtle creation (such as a strategy, feeling, goal, or feedback structure) over another one. You may want to pursue your goals and visions, independently, or with others, and it may feel important to do it "first" before anyone else does. The sense of competition arises, and desire for the ownership of ideas create copyrights, contracts, and other legal protections to safeguard the ideas that you have created. You may not easily understand the concept of someone else having the same idea you do, so even when you use an idea that you have heard of, you may still sense it as yours. Conversely, if you think of, or copyright something first, it may feel as if it belongs to you even if someone else thought of the idea independently at the same time, earlier or later. Thus, it may sometimes be confusing to you about what is "mine" or "yours" from a subtle standpoint.

Although you often see the concrete materialistic ego, it is difficult for you to see your own subtle ego, which may appear to others just as self-serving though you tend not to think of it that way. At this stage, you may generally assume that everyone sees things as you do on a subtle level. Thus your conversations may involve talking "at" or "about" to others, rather than "with," others, on the subtle level of ideas, and this promotes a subtle parallel existence to others, often known as "agreeing to disagree."

In addition to seeing symbols of symbols, at this stage you begin to reflect on your subtle thinking, which allows you to create planning into the future around your ideas to achieve what you want. This allows you to use approaches, analysis and linear planning with feedback to reach a goal in the future.

You understand that you are seeing the same subtle whole when you look at a goal, idea, or plan, from many different angles. Thus, 360 degree feedback processes, multiple feedback loops, and multiple measures of analyses arise from this understanding. Science and R&D become a magic bullet.

Focusing your attention is seen as critical to choosing and accomplishing your goals. You now can categorize, prioritize, and bring a hierarchical trajectory to thoughts ideas, goals, plans emotions, reasons, and analysis. Observing these same subtle objects arising in others, allows you to create plans to compete with them, although you may not see how others are also seeing your ideas in return. Because of this lack of subtle mutual seeing individual competition (as opposed to collaborative approaches), tends to accelerate, where you may want to build strategies to be more and more efficient as well as effective - enough to bring your ideas out first before anyone else does.

Since this is still an individual stage, you tend to pursue relentlessly the goals that you set, sometimes to the neglect of your family, personal life, and even your health. You may also expect people who work with you to be just as driven. However you probably work well with teams, delegating and collaborating for the purpose of efficiency, in pursuit of your aims.

People experiencing this stage

  • See subtle either/or choices: subtle decision-making capacities are mature.
  • Can project self into other's shoes and imagine what they will be experiencing, so you think you know yourself and others well on a subtle level.
  • Tend not to recognize when others see you subtly in return. This results in talking "at" subtly rather than "with" and agreeing to disagree.
  • Can employ linear strategic thinking: thinking about thinking and feeling; planning, analysis arises.
  • Operate in a time frame of one-five years or more into future; allows for deductive reasoning, hypothesizing and goal setting.
  • Experience a space that includes "all of us": thus social justice appears.
  • Value the partnership of effectiveness and efficiency more than perfection (80/20 rule).
  • See the possibility of continuous progress through the scientific method.
  • Accept feedback, especially if it helps them to achieve their goals and to improve.
  • Value teamwork, especially if that supports getting them to goal.
  • See multiple options and are able to prioritize best ones.
  • May struggle with balancing work, family, play.