With the Coronavirus massively interrupting our lives and our psyches, STAGES International is offering an evergreen program on love and relationship, through a developmental lens.

Love. We seek it, we give it, we engage in it with others. Humanity across time and cultures embraces love. Love is interwoven into the very fabric of our body, soul and spirit.

We feel it in ourselves and we feel it in those we love. Love is often described as something pure and unchanging. But when we look at ourselves and those around us we see and feel how our love grows. This workshop is about that growth. How love grows and develops in stages throughout our life. That is…

Love grows up just as we grow up.

We know love develops. Now we know how love develops. Recent research into love and how it grows in stages can help us to be the most loving people we can be. With this new information we can map our own stages of love as a guide for our own development.

This can help us understand our style of love and our partner’s style of love. Our love profile can show how our children love, how we love, how our neighbors might feel love. We can understand how we receive, give, and share love.

This knowledge can help us so we can connect and make more loving relationships with everyone around us. We can learn to become love.

Love as Never Before

from Terri, Kim, and Marj
14+ hours of recordings over 15 sessions

Full Price

Helps to support scholarships and hardship pricing.


Hardship Price

For those with financial strain.


Welcome to Love as Never Before, an audio workshop on the experience of how love grows up throughout our lives. We will explore the stages of love using the STAGES Matrix, a model of human development developed by Terri O’Fallon PhD based on almost 10 years of research. Research on the stages of human development has been ongoing for over 100 years. STAGES is a recent model that uncovers repeating patterns throughout our lives up into the latest stages for which there is research.

This program will highlight your love and your love potential as seen through the parameters of STAGES. We will see how the underlying building blocks that grow our love change over time to bring broader, later, more stable capacities for love.

With this combination of personal growth and the research on the developmental stages of Love, “Love like Never before” offers useful information for Love, Health and Well-Being of your life and the lives of your loved ones.

What you will learn:

  • A “roadmap” of how love develops in your life
  • Recorded exercises with a live audience to bring the work alive
  • An understating of your current location on the love map
  • Ideas for developing your love at each place on the map in depth, breadth and height
  • How you can unfold the higher stage of love that is next for you
  • How to love as you never have before

Program Overview

Explore an Overview of Love in ways that you’ve never experienced it before.

  • Open into a Quantum Leap into how you understand Love in your life.
  • See the Trinity of Three tiers, including the 12 realms of passive and active energy
  • Realize how your life TRANSCENDS and INCLUDES naturally
  • The physical dimensions, the thinking and feeling of subtle dimensions
  • And the still rare, yet ALWAYS ALREADY realms of the MetAware

The repeating patterns of Love

The three questions:

  1. Is the love you are engaged with Concrete, Subtle, or MetAware?
  2. Do you prefer an Individual orientation or a Collective orientation?
  3. Is your love process primarily Receptive, Active, Reciprocal or Interpenetrative?

Application overview:

  1. What is the experience of these levels of Love?
  2. How you can apply these patterns of Love in your life?

The Concrete STAGES

The Concrete Individual Love STAGES

Early developmental patterns that set the frame for later developmental levels. What does research say about love at these levels?

How can love be interfered with at these levels?

Working with the genesis of shadow and its effects on children, arrested development in adults, Attachment Disorders, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety and Addiction which come up early in life and how their healing can support greater breadth of love at the early years of life.

The first-person perspective

Contours of the early concrete self and introjection

  • Receiving Love
  • Practical applications of early experiences of love
  • Transition: a one-parameter change

Late first-person self and states: birth of and projection

  • Giving Love
  • Transition: a two-parameter change

The Concrete Collective STAGES

  • What does research say about love at these levels?
  • How can love be interfered with at these levels?

The Second-Person Perspective: The repeating effects of the collective and how collective perspectives form, and produce shadows that repeat in later stages. How shadow begins to grow up; working further with arrested development, Attachment Disorders, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety and Addiction. Healing shadow supports a greater experience of Love.

The second-person perspectives of love

Early second person: birth of the collective; maturing love as reciprocal

  1. Practical applications of early reciprocal Love
  2. Transition, a one parameter change

Late second person: concrete projection and introjections of Love in collectives

  1. Practical applications
  2. Transition a three-parameter change

The Subtle Tier

The Subtle Individual STAGES

  • Third-person perspective; The Subtle developmental patterns of Love; how early patterns repeat in adults. What does research say about love at these levels?
  • How can love be interfered with at these levels?
  • Depression, Anxiety, Addiction, PTSD grow up. How healing them opens the door for greater, nuanced Love.

The third-person perspectives of Love

The contours of the early third-person subtle self and Love: marinating in subtle Love

  1. Practical applications
  2. transition, a one parameter change

Late third person perspectives: birth of reflective aspects of the feeling of love. Thinking about thinking, thinking about feeling, feeling about thinking and feeling about feeling.

  1. Practical
  2. a two parameter change

The Subtle Collective STAGES

  • Fourth person perspective. Subtle developmental patterns
  • What does research say about love at these levels?
  • How can love be interfered with at these levels?
  • Working with the up-shift of early concrete collective Love. Depression, Anxiety, Addiction, PTSD continue to grow up-and how healing this support Love growing up.

The fourth-person Love perspectives

Early fourth person: Love in context

  1. Practical applications
  2. a one parameter change
  3. Late fourth person: subtle projection and introjections of love in collectives
    1. Practical applications
    2. a three parameter change

The MetAware Tier

The MetAware Individual STAGES

Fifth and sixth person perspectives on Love: Metaware developmental patterns.
What does research say about love at these levels?

How can love be interfered with at these levels?

The effects and sophistication of long term shadow. Working with the agile mind: Depression, Anxiety, Addiction, PTSD. Appropriate interventions targeted to patterns. Ethical considerations. How alleviation of these shadow elements continues to grow Love up.

The fifth-person perspective

  • The contours of the early fifth person construct aware Love
  • A one-parameter change

Late fifth person self: Transpersonal Love

  • Practical applications
  • A two-parameter change

The sixth-person perspective

Early sixth person: birth of the MetAware collective. An ocean of Love

  • Practical applications
  • A one-parameter change

Late sixth person: Illumined Love

  • Practical applications

Love as Never Before

from Terri, Kim, and Marj
14+ hours of recordings over 15 sessions

Full Price

Helps to support scholarships and hardship pricing.


Hardship Price

For those with financial strain.


About the Presenters

Terri O’Fallon, PhD is an Integral scholar whose research spans 40 years, including eleven research studies conducted in various colleges, public schools, and private research venues. Her most recent theory, and the culmination of a lifetime of work, is the STAGES model of human development. From this model a new theory is evolving around the interpenetration of states and stages. STAGES integrates several developmental models and is informed by Ken Wilber’s Integral Theory and Terri’s own research, to form a robust and predictive map that is being used by numerous scholars, practitioners, and leaders throughout the world.

Terri’s theory and research interests are founded in a passionate practice of auspicious curiosity, learning, and marinating in life. Teaching has been a theme throughout Terri’s life. Beginning as a preschool and first-grade teacher, she has taught every grade, including special education and the gifted. She has held the role of elementary school principal and public school-district superintendent and taught in seven colleges and universities, with over fifty years experience in teaching from pre-kindergarten through post-doctorate studies.

Her interest in life span development naturally arose from her experience in the field of education. She has a PhD in Integral Studies with a concentration in Learning and Change in Human Systems, and masters degrees in Spiritual Direction and Special Education. These embodied experiences inform her primary theory, research, and teaching theme: growing up is waking up throughout the lifespan.

Ordinariness has been the trajectory of Terri’s life. She is the eldest of seven siblings, parent of two adult children, and grandparent of two granddaughters. Steeped in philosophy, research, teaching, and a myriad of spiritual practices, her path continues to bring her solidly home to the practical living, breathing appreciation of the simple things in life.

We wake up every morning. We grow up, quite naturally. We live through joys and sorrows, and face our family, friends, and neighbors every day. We grow old and watch our life approach its end as we apprehend the birth of our grandchildren. With the gifts of so many experiences, the highs and lows of being, what seems to always remain, is what we were advised to value from birth: listening, gratitude, compassion, love, forgiveness, generosity, light-heartedness—lifelong lessons that never seem to end.

Kim Barta, MA is an internationally-recognized licensed psychotherapist, coach, spiritual guide, and speaker. His work is founded in an experiential practice that works with many different kinds of cultures and challenges, from severe mental illness and trauma to supporting the fullest expression of one’s humanity. Kim’s expertise now includes integrating developmental theory with the day-to-day work of being an active therapist and healer.

Kim graduated with a BA in Cultural Anthropology from the University of Montana in 1984. He pursued a masters in an interdisciplinary program that combined psychology, social work, counseling, and sociology for a broad perspective for healing. He lived with a Native American shaman and did his masters thesis in shamanism and modern psychotherapy.

After developing and implementing a successful training program in the construction industry for people suffering from severe mental illness such as bipolar, schizophrenia, and Axis 2 Disorders, Kim pursued outdoor leadership, becoming an instructor with the international Outward Bound schools. Kim went on to develop a mental health treatment program for children and youth that was adopted by three hospitals in Montana. In 1992, Kim and his wife, Dr. Katie Carter ND, co-founded and continue managing a mind/body healing arts clinic in Polson, Montana, nestled beneath the high Mission Mountains on the shore of Flathead Lake, in the Flathead Indian nation.

Ever seeking better ways of healing in the life of self, other, families and children, Kim has developed several successful new forms of therapy that lead to deep and rapid healing. These therapies have proven themselves effective with a wide range of issues, including: depression, anxiety, PTSD, anger, addiction, chronic pain, physical illnesses and weight loss and personal growth. People utilize his psychology/coaching/spiritual guidance practice, on a global level.

Currently, Kim has joined his sister, Dr. Terri O’Fallon, to present workshops and trainings on STAGES, a new model of human development developed by Dr. O’Fallon. Kim’s long history of working with such a wide variety of clients has made his expertise invaluable. He brings nuance and direct application into the STAGES model, allowing it to be integrated into the dynamic and fluid world of psychotherapy and coaching.

Marj Britt, EdD is a Mystic in the world, with Love as the Center of her life. She has guided many in finding purpose, passion and destiny in five decades of public education and Unity ministry. Marj was the visionary leader of Unity of Tustin CA from 1992-2011. Her EdD from the University of Massachusetts combines curriculum, psychological education and counseling. She is the author of Your Soul’s Invisible Codes, Unveiling Your Sacred Love Story which has been called a guidebook for the soul.

In 2015, Marj met Terri O’Fallon and immediately knew how important it was to develop a Love Stages Inventory. It became the first specialty protocol to go through the Beta stages and Consistency Studies standing on the shoulders of the significant research of the Stages Inventory model.

Marj is the founder of Called By Love Institute, a non-profit 501c3. The mission of Called By Love Institute is to HARNESS THE POWER OF LOVE as a revolutionary and evolutionary FORCE in healing lives, building dreams, realizing purpose, destiny, and legacy. It is about connecting ordinary and extra-ordinary people to their fullest potential, bringing Awareness and Light into the world. As you see through the eyes of the Soul, you see and experience Love in the vastness of your life. You can learn more about Marj’s work at:,, and